I was raised to be practical with all my choices, and clothing is no exception. Sometimes I envy the appearance of others and how well the image that they have created for themselves is portrayed because of their sense of style. However, the label ‘fashionable’ in not only left to interpretation, but can also be accompanied by grueling pain or discomfort, and irrational decisions. We all accept some kind of fashion standards to fit in with societal expectations, but I try to remind myself that I don’t need to be ‘trendy’ to be comfortable with myself and that my goal shouldn’t be to win the approval of others based on my fashion sense. There’s more that defines me than just the clothes on my back.
From a woman’s perspective [because I can better relate to women’s wardrobe choices than men’s], I often shudder at the thought of how painful walking in four inch heels for hours each day must be, how uncomfortable that tight dress that doesn’t allow you to breathe is, and how impractical that outfit is for warmth or any kind of coverage what-so-ever. But it all looks ‘damn good’ right? Is it worth it for fashion? I think not! Recognizing that those heels will definitely cause foot issues in the future, that there is such a thing as elasticity in dresses, and that one can appear well dressed, but still be modest and sensible with outfits are realizations that I would love to literally smack people in the face with sometimes… And for men, walking with your pants half way down your legs must be extremely difficult. Is it supposed to look cool? What if you get chased by a dog or a bear? You would be a dead man (or at least a severely wounded one)!
I value comfort over everything else in the clothing world. As soon as I get home, I’m into my pajamas or track pants and a comfy shirt or hoodie. Of course, I have made some poor fashion choices myself and regret my decisions immediately or at least a few hours later; and I’ve repeated those mistakes, sometimes several times. A good example involves a pair of cute black flats that I have a love/hate relationship with. These flats are appropriate for any occasion and feel cushy when I put them on at first, but over an afternoon or a few hours, they give me blisters, make my feet sore from lack of support and I struggle to keep them on when I walk. I have tried adding insoles, non-slip inserts, bandaging my pinky toes - tried everything to try to make them work for me. Yet, each time they fail and again and again I continue to wear them. I know I should just thrift shop them because they clearly don’t work, but I have yet to do so. It is completely illogical to think that these shoes will magically fit my feet better the next time I wear them, yet I keep them. Women logic at its best.
Fashion just doesn’t interest me – I was never one for cosmetology class, celeb magazines or nail polish. It has never made sense to me why a bikini [made of barely anything] costs 3-4 times as much as heavy material swim trunks. I just don’t get it… I wear what I’m comfortable in and what is acceptable, but not necessarily ‘in’ right now. And as I get older, I care less about what everyone else is wearing and have adjusted my style to more of what I like and what works for my body. To each their own, but I’d rather remain comfy in my 15-year-old school-play t-shirt than spend all my cash to replenish my wardrobe with what is in this season (that’s the least of my priorities). I have learned that high heels will hurt no matter how much you convince yourself that they will be fine (although they do look good – IF you can walk in them), and that bringing a comfortable back up pair of shoes is wise. You should always layer or at least bring a jacket along because you will likely get cold. If you haven’t heard, smart is the new sexy, so embrace it!
I'm a 20-something woman working my way through life in Canada, traveling when I can afford it and seeking out my passions one day at a time.