I’m big on disproving stereotypes and all for strong and independent women! Ladies who think they are princesses and are afraid to get their hands dirty or lift a finger are creatures I will never understand. I wish more women would voice their opinions and stand up for their beliefs, but it is still not uncommon for them to remain silent due to lack of confidence or for fear of ridicule or being different. I want to give a boost to those women – to tell them just to “try it” – you can do it and you might even surprise yourself!
I would say I am definitely one of the outliers when it comes to the typical woman – I voice my opinions often and I prefer to try things myself even if it means getting it wrong the first time or becoming filthy or ruining my nails/hair while doing it. I adamantly will want to try something myself even if someone else can do it better, faster or more easily just because I want to understand it better or learn something from it. I will say that I feel my upbringing and home environment (with my single parent entrepreneur mom as my role model) has a lot to do with my attitude and views towards women and my own ambitions and views of self-efficiency. My priorities have seemingly always been on the opposite end of the spectrum compared to other females my age (related to dating, teenage drama and social groups, having kids, marriage, fashion and the like). I’m grateful that I have the freedom and confidence to operate autonomously where needed and develop my own views, and for the opportunity and willingness to test my own aptitudes and limitations. Even if I don’t succeed at a task, I gave it a shot and I try to gain something by trying it.
It is incredibly rare to find an instance where I feel there is a task I cannot accomplish and need a man to help complete the task – I can kill the spider (though ideally with a tissue), take out the trash and use a drill and screws to build a deck, and so can many other women if they give it a shot. And rightfully so, you shouldn’t expect the man to always do those kinds of tasks – share the work load right?! Sure, there are instances where it would be helpful to have more people to help or someone stronger (stereo-typically, a man) to get he job done, but ladies, at least try it yourself first! I feel like a lot of women are easily defeated just by the thought of trying something they are unsure about or lack experience in and go straight to the next person for help. This mindset troubles me, and again, if it’s not an expert level life-threatening task, we should at least try it first before seeking help.
In this day and age, women are as closely viewed to equals as we’ve ever been. I’m not delving into politics in this post, but it is amazing how far women’s rights, careers and freedom has come in the last 100 years. Women are more educated, informed, and certainly with the help of YouTube and Google are resources (seriously), more capable of trying new things that were once dominated by men. All I’m asking is that you ladies toughen up a bit and whatever it is, give it your best shot! Never underestimate a woman (or yourself if you are one).
A millennial woman with 'old school' values, working my way through life in Canada and traveling when I can afford to. Seeking out my passions one day at a time.